Sunday, August 28, 2011


SEXUAL APPEAL 
What makes  you sexually appealing?
Women, fascinated by sex appeal, want and must have it.   Sex appeal stimulates your appetite and excitement, but can’t be defined.   It doesn’t matter if you are beautiful or ugly, all that is important is that you have sex appeal. 
Our cultural prejudices and preferences are constantly changing, as are our fashions.  In the past, obesity was recognized as a strong aphrodisiac and sexually stimulating. Perhaps  with our national obesity epidemic, obesity may again be promoted as sexually appealing.  The media  bombards you with confusing product messages on how to  improve your sex appeal.  Unfortunately,  the products  often fail to produce.
Americans spend $10 billion on cosmetics, perfumes and beauty supplies annually. The mass media exploits sex appeal.  There is no question that looks are important, and  beautiful women get better jobs.  You are told: “ to look beautiful, you must wear a petite size dress,  have a perfect face, large breasts, and beautiful butts.  Without the most expensive things, your man will not love you. To get your man, you must have the perfect perfume, shoes, and lipstick.” 
The industry targets your body flaws to get you to buy their products. Advertisements assert the negative aspect of your wrinkles and pimples. Yet, makeup can be a barrier to intimacy, since you don’t reveal your true self, until the makeup comes off at night.
Sex appeal may be how you dress or act, your breast or bust size, your narrow hips, your exposed ankles and body, your new tattoos, and the look of your belly  button ring.  It may be,however,  the interest, involvement,  and erotic  movements you show, that send the message “ you want to have sex”.  You enhance your padded bras and artificial bottoms  by having plastic surgery.  The 4 inch high heeled shoes you bought today tilts your pelvis forward and upward,, and is pleasing to men, but miserable to your feet.
Yet, sex appeal is more than the shape of your legs and size of your breasts.  Your social and biologic ability  to be stimulating and fascinating are equally important.  What you make unavailable, forbidden, or illicit, seem to have special appeal.  What you think is appealing to the opposite sex is often not what is really wanted.  Your erotic behavior over the short-haul will only keep you in short term sleeping relationships.
 Today’s increased  nudity, with miniskirts, topless outfits,  and now shameless and obscene  total nudity,  has  left little to the male imagination, and has decreased his sexual interest in you.
The media exploits sex appeal as important to winning one’s mate. The kind of perfume, sweat reducer, bodybuilding, and makeup are essential.    Potential customers are the young and single, and the focus is on developing infatuation and an overpowering desire for sex.  You may be  looking for a warm friendly intimate and long-standing relationship, which of course includes sexual activity., but the advertising media has you focus on the impossible dream.
You were taught  as a child, that to be appealing to men, you should be passive rather than assertive.   Yet you soon discovered that Freud was restricted by ignorance and prejudices of his time, and most men really do like assertive women who don’t sit back and are passive. Your relationship with your father started you thinking about sex appeal. You imitated your mother, and practiced on your dad.
 Once you reached puberty, you knew you were a woman.  You open up  yourself by appealing to all sorts of boys and tried to make yourself attractive.  If your dad was appealing, you often look for older men that are appealing. If you’re not sure of yourself, you often seek out younger men. as
 Everyone talks about the sexual revolution, yet premarital sex was very common after World War I during the roaring 20s.  The same openness about sex then is seen now in our everyday life and dress.   A man is attracted to you when you show good  and deep interpersonal vibes.  Since men  are constantly under sexual tension,  they are aroused by seeing nude or partially nude females.  Not so with you: you still love to cross examine, qualify your mate, first,---  physical contact can come later.  
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